King Solomon who reigned in Israel between 970 and 931 BC is a man who was gifted with wisdom from God, according to the Bible. The Quran considers Solomon/Sulayman as one of major prophet among the 48 prophets.
I want to settle on the biblical story of Solomon. This wise man composed love songs and poems ‘Songs of Solomon’. He had 700 wives and 300 concubines. It amazes me that with all his wives and concubines and his God given wisdom he could not understand love. Yet a Kenyan with 3 girlfriends and a few prostitutes nicknames himself ‘Dr Love’. When did you understand love?
Solomon said there is a time for everything, a time to love and a time to hate. He actually authored one of the best Philosophical book I have ever read even if I can’t pronounce the title ‘Ecclesiastes’. In this book he says no man knows whether love or hate awaits him. He recommends that you enjoy life with your WIFE whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun. Note it is wife not girlfriend.
At the end of his life he looked at all his wealth, wives and concubines and he said nothing is new under the sun (even love I guess). He actually referred to everything under the sun as meaningless- he called it a vanity of vanities.
‘Behind every successful man there is a woman’ the phrase has remained intact until 21st century where it changed to ‘Behind every successful man there is a woman, so increase the number of women to be more successful’. Prominent men in history have challenged this two sayings and decided to stay single.
Sir Isaac Newton
Sir Isaac Newton is the man who learnt about gravity from watching an apple drop from an apple tree not by staring at books like us. If you want to challenge the existence of this law just try to jump off from 5th floor, Incase you fly you will have won the argument. You will realise gravity isn’t easy, but it’s the law. One thing about law is that it never loses and it always gets you down.
Isaac Newton stayed single during his life span of 84 years. Maybe he had found a way to go against gravity and avoid falling in love. He dedicated his life on staggering discoveries and in-depth researches. He is the man behind calculus, the solar system movements, the idea of the earth being a sphere, the theory of colour, speed of sound, empirical law of cooling and binomial theorem among other principles. Look at how much you can achieve being single.
Looking at his life I think there’s something really cool about knowing that your destiny is so big that you’re not meant to share it with anyone. Being single actually is a beautiful phase of life which allows you to enjoy freedom, happiness and many other pleasures which people in a relationship will never experience. No arguments, no yelling, no fights, no tug of war, no show of might, no quarrelling, no wrangling, no making up, no sucking up and no fake hugging. Without all this chaos you can do more than Sir Isaac Newton. Intelligence and concentration needs both internal and external peace.
Leonardo da Vinci
Leonardo da Vinci is another man who decided to stay single all his life. Leonardo da Vinci is the most famous bachelor of the world. He was this guy with a quenchless curiosity for almost everything in this world apart from love. Best known for being the most gifted person to have ever lived. He was talented in painting, sculpting, architecture, science, music, mathematics, engineering, invention, anatomy, geology, astronomy, botany, writing, history, and cartography. I guess this guy was a genius, perhaps more than that. He died at the age of 67, finding happiness in a never-married life.
His life is against a misconception that any talented or creative individual should have a partner. Many talented young men are cultured to think that a partner is a gift for any achievement. A musician releases a hit song and the next moment is caught up in a compromising situation. Who said talents and love complement each other? It is easier for people to fall in love with you because you are talented but you don’t have to trade your singleness with it. Actually you can do much more with your talents being single.
Queen Elizabeth I and James Buchanan
Lastly I want to focus on leaders who stayed single. Power is not a source of love, it is neither a platform of accumulating sweethearts like King Solomon. Some leaders have proved that power is a platform to develop ones nation and help others. One of this leaders is Queen Elizabeth I of England who was the last and longest-reigning monarch (45 years). During her reign England became a substantial power in Europe and spreading English influence around the world through exploration. The other guy is James Buchanan, Jr who was the 15th President of the United States and the only POTUS never to marry.
I may not be willing to stay single all my life like Sir Isaac Newton, Leonardo da Vinci or like James Buchanan but I admire their lives and they give me more reasons to stay single. They are not in the books of history because of LOVE but because of achievements, this proves that LOVE doesn’t define a human being, but achievements do.
History proves that if you are alone and single, there are many things you can do; you can pursue your interests and dreams, you can sharpen your skills and talents. History goes a long way to prove being single means having the strength to scrape through on your own and having the capacity to survive even when you are alone. Do you believe this is true? Support your argument with a comment
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